VICKY Phelan was laid to rest after a private funeral, in accordance with her wishes.
The brave 48-year-old CervicalCheck campaigner and mum-of-two died this week at Milford Care Center in Co Limerick.
In a message included in her obituary on RIP.ie today, it was revealed that ‘in accordance with Vicky’s wishes, a private funeral has taken place’.
The notice said Vicky died “in the presence of her loving family, after a long illness borne with great dignity”.
Vicky will be sadly missed by her loving family, husband Jim, daughter Amelia, son Darragh, parents John and Gaby Kelly, siblings Robbie, Lee, Jonnie and Lyndsey.
As well as his in-laws Jim and Breda Phelan, nephews, nieces, brothers-in-law, sisters-in-law, other relatives, friends and neighbours.
In lieu of flowers, the family has requested that donations be directed to the Milford Care Centre.
Vicky previously said that she would like to have a private funeral and wouldn’t have an alarm clock, so her children wouldn’t have to see strangers see her in a coffin.
But after the private funeral, she told how she wanted The Blizzards and The Stunning to play his favorite songs at a special memorial.
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And she heartbreakingly revealed in February how she wanted her children to remember ordinary days.
After helping her son Darragh with his homework, she said: “For me these are times that my children will remember… the time I spent sitting with them as a mum helping to doing their homework, but also putting myself on their level and doing things they are interested in. These are the days I live for.
And Jim, Amelia and Darragh and Vicky’s parents John and Gaby said she was “the heart and soul” of the family.
The family said: “It is with a huge burden of grief that earlier today we said our last goodbyes to our beloved Vicky.
“She was the heart and soul of our family unit and her passing will leave a void in all of our lives that at this point seems impossible to fill.
“We cherish the memories of a loving wife, mother, daughter and sister, whose ability to deal with life’s challenges inspired not just ourselves, but an entire nation. “
They said the Irish public will have the opportunity to express their condolences at a later date.
The statement added: “The outpouring of grief and good wishes from everywhere is truly appreciated.
“Funeral arrangements, once made, will be private, with the ability for people to pay their respects in due course.”
‘MY OWN STAMP ON HER’
Last November during the Late Late Show, Vicky revealed that she had already planned his funeral.
Vicky said: “I’ve had four years to think about it. I’m one of those people, even though I won’t be here. I will be here. You know what I’m saying?
“I’m a control freak. No one will plan anything without me saying so.
“When I found out in 2018 that it was terminal, obviously I don’t want to die. I’m a young woman, I have young children and that’s what made me try to fight more long with them.
“And I’m glad I’ve had the last four years. I’ve always said if I can get Darragh to double figures and he’s ten now, he’ll be 11 in February.
“But you always want more, everyone wants more.”
She continued: “Planning my funeral, for me, I think that’s something a lot of people I know wouldn’t want to go and wouldn’t want to think about, but for me, I would love to have my own stamp. on and what I want.”
Phelan said she wanted her funeral to be a “celebration” for her family.
She said: “I know I don’t want a church service for example, I want a humanitarian. And I want it to be a party, I don’t want people wearing black.
“I don’t want that. I want some color…I just think it would make it easier for the kids rather than being a disaster, it’s going to be pretty tough.
“And that’s why I would like the music, I just think yeah damn bring the music.”
Vincent said, “That’s why she chose this beach (for the photo) and that’s where she wants her ashes to be scattered.”
Vicky has posted several snaps of Doughmore on trips to her beloved Clare asshole over the years, sharing how she walked the beach on an “amazing” bank holiday weekend in August this year.